Is it time to move on from my exex or to give her more time?

I am in the same situation as you. It is terrible. Thank goodness she has been honest with you and both of you have stopped contacting one another. You have to understand this is the ONLY way you will both heal and move on and if there is any chance of reconnecting it will only come after not being in each others lives for a while. When there is space between 2 people it feels awful. You think they will move on and forget you asap. You think you will never see them again and you will feel the pain that is in your heart now forever. I don't know how many relationships you have had but I have ben in love more than once and I can tell you none of the above are true. I broke up with a guy when I was 24 now I'm 30 and we had lunch the other day. He told me he still loves me like crazy and I still feel like maybe he was the one I was supposed to marry as well. But i broke up with him because there were a lot of things I wanted to finish in my life first. And I also thought I wanted to find a guy with better qualities. And guess what? I did find a guy that had better qualities but he was so cocky he cheated on me. So I regreted losing a guy that may have not known how to cook very well or fix things around the house but he loved me more than anything and would have been the best companion in the world. I think you should let her experience other people and life and hopefully it will open up her eyes to how great you actually are. Maybe the same will happen inreverse for you. maybe you will meet a girl who has all of her good qualities and none of her bad who is twice as HOT! :) My point is appreciate the fact she was honest with you and do your best to heal. You won't if you keep talking to her. My most recent ex and I had an apt together and he moved out in the middle of the lease. He broke up with me but kept in contact b/c of our place. This was torture for me. I was still in love and he wasnt but he would come watch movies, sleep with me, tell me he loved me. Then once our lease was up told me he never wanted to see me again. So luckily that didn't happen to you. I have been so hurt that I haven't been able to let things go and each time we talked I would yell and freak out and accuse him of being with other people. If you remain in each others lives it could get ugly. Perhaps not in the same sense but it won't be healthy. I wish you the best and you could always contact me if you want to chat :) Be strong and take care of yourself so if you ever run into her you look fabulous! Eat, run/workout, Play volleyball on the beach without a shirt so you get a tan! Get out there and enjoy yourself. You only have one life to live