How do i deal with someone whos constantly tryign to make me feel sorry for them?

There is a whole bunch of water in your charts. Both of you. As a Cancer you probably do want to "nurture " her but with her Pisces Sun, Cancer Moon, and Pisces Mercury she is feeling somewhat like a martyr. That is a Pisces thing and being "selfless" loses it charm when your child is getting to leave her home and go out into the world. I think Mom is having "separation anxiety" with a touch of the "empty nest syndrome." Water signs are emotional and water can really be "heavy" at times. And Stepdad is out and about and that only makes her feel more alone. She may also be headed for depression because she is going to be even more lonely after you leave. i suggest you head her to the nearby mental health clinic as she needs some help. Call one of the local hot lines and make her an appointment. A counselor can help her get through this time of her life. And don't forget that Mom might be headed for menopause and that it al whole other big ball of wax. Help her make a doctor's appointment and let's get Mom some help. Sounds like her husband is doing is own thing and that doesn't help when you're feeling "heavy" with emotions. And your mom is very "heavy" right now. Good luck. Touch base with her after you move and kindly get her into a counselor's office. Right now they can do more for her than you can. Bless you both and Good luck going out into this world.